The book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson is a book about realizing that sometimes, you care way to much over something that you can’t control or doesn’t even matter; Therefore, the title of the book. One of the things this book will teach you is to become unflinchingly honest with yourself and accept who you are. For example (taken from the book), Bukowski, a writer and a loser. He knew he was a loser, accepted it and then wrote about it in the Post Office, one of his books. And he never tried to be something other than what he was; And on his tombstone, it writes, “Don’t try”, because he never did and became successful. So, in short. Accept who you are move forward.
The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience. (Pg.9)
That there is my favourite quote, this is later in the book, in the section The Feedback Loop from Hell. Which talks about how wanting to experience something positive make you think about how you aren’t experiencing it. And therefore it turn negative. Simple accepting a negative experience instead of overthinking because of it and thinking up ways you could’ve avoided it and now you’re giving way to much of an F. SO, by just moving forward and accepting it, you’ve now accepted it and feel so much freely than before. Turning it into a positive experience.