I am sure almost every kid in the world including myself was told numerous lies in our childhoods. As I read through Paul Graham’s essay, ‘Lies We Tell Kids’, I could refer his ideas to my own experiences. In my opinion this might be the reason why I was so fascinated to read this essay, because I, in some day will lie to little kids and did spend my childhood, being lied. In addition this cycle will eventually continue for many generations.
In this essay, I especially like the part where Paul Graham mentioned negative effect of telling lies to children:
“…But we should understand the price. This sort of lie is one of the main reasons bad things persist: we’re all trained to ignore them.”
The reason why I liked this quotation is because this statement has brought me two contrastive ideas – whether we should continuously hide the truth until kids get old enough to know the true thing and make the right decision or to unveil the truth so that they can learn how to manage and handle the problems and learn how to make the right judgment since very young.
When we were little, parents tried to hide most of the facts that they thought irrelevant to us, although we get to know them after we grow up. Why? The reason is very simple, they want to protect us. They are forcing us to be innocent. I used to believe every word what my parents said; nevertheless as I grew older, I could recognize some of the lies my parents used to tell me through this writing. I couldn’t understand very well, the reason why keeping us in distance from the truth if they really want us to be protected and be loved. However after I have finished reading Graham’s writing, I was glad that he had the same opinion as me. I wish I could understand how general parents feel towards their children after I grow up and be the parent.
Overall I really enjoyed reading ‘Lies We Tell Kids’. It forced me to think a lot. Lies are usually considered as negative, but I realized once more there are sometimes good meanings beneath them.